The word woman has a lot of connotations: weak, beautiful, fragile, stylish, emotional, gentle et cetera. The mere mention of the word itself conjures up even more images in one’s mind. Yet one thought I think should come up more than any other when talking about women is invaluable; coz that’s what they are to us, to me at least.
“All I am and hope to be I owe to my mother”, Lincolns words are more than true tome coz I can’t imagine my life without my mum. She’s the single most towering influence in my life. Besides being an ever present source and symbol of strength throughout my life, she’s also a great friend and an inspiration, even in those moments when we don’t see eye to eye. The way I’m able to relate with her has had a huge bearing on my relationships with all other females. God bless that woman!
I have two sisters, three and five years older than me respectively. We’ve spent a lot of time together (my entire life), especially in my formative years when hang out extensively and some of my fondest childhood memories are of them. I’ve learnt a great deal from my interactions with them, from the obvious to the obscure. There’s plenty popular music lessons I still remember hehe. Even at this basic level, it’s clear that have women have and continue to shape and influence my life. This includes relatives and friends too.
The simple fact that you reading this means you should be thankful, at least in your actions, to the woman who carried you in her womb for nine months and gave you the gift of life. This isn’t a women’s rights campaign (maybe it should), instead it’s a reminder of our duty to honour and give due respect to the women who play significant roles in our lives. This might be a friend, mom, cousin, wife, niece, granny, girlfriend or aunt.
When you pay attention to music, film and sport you’ll realise that these fields sometimes subconsciously take on themes that exploit women’s traits, stereotyping them as mere helpers playing a secondary role to men in society. Products of these industries occasionally use the female biological make up to justify the tag of the weaker sex. As popular as these views may be among some purists, I’ll be the first to say that women are just as important and strong as men are.
It’s upsettingly funny that when you ask any movie fan to name their top five film stars, there will probably be no females mentioned, this is true for both male and female respondents. What’s so upsetting about this is not that there are just as many great female actors as there are males, instead it’s the fact that in a place like Hollywood one would expect women to get the same recognition as men. One could argue that having an all-male top five film star list really comes down to one’s preferences and that some female actors actually get more money than their male counterparts. Well, that still doesn’t change the fact that more often than not, the ladies are playing a subordinate character.
Though it has powerful effects , the objectification of women as nothing more than sex symbols or beautiful airheads is quite moronic coz it is based on the idea that men harbour a natural desire to dominate and subsequently humiliate women. I would also argue that the beauty of a woman goes beyond physical appearance and attractiveness. In my opinion a beautiful woman is one who is imaginative, bold, loves herself and can express herself in a manner that arouses admiration.
All this is not to say men are not needed in this equation. On the contrary, we the male folk (women too) need to use our position in society to appreciate, embrace, respect and care for our women in both our actions and speech on a daily basis coz if you really think about it, what’s good for women is good for men as we are inseparable. You don’t have to wait for her birthday, the second Sunday of May or the 8th of March to give that special woman a call, a thank you note, a hug, a smile, a kiss or flowers.